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Hello Mr. ENTJ 👋🏻 ENTP girl here. Like any other Ne-dom I have major struggles with discipline and commitment. This ended up, obviously, screwing my life and I have no idea what to do. I have problems figuring out what career should I choose, and this is depressing me because I'm ambitious and would like to find my place and succeed. What advise do you have on discipline? Or on how to stick with something even when is not fun all the time? I know that for us is very difficult and that maybe an advise for others might not work so good with us (our brain is programmed to jump from one topic to another) but is there anything you know that could help with this?

Sorry for the long ask, and thank you so much.

(ps: I have depression, which I'm already working on with proper help. But discipline related to study/work and goals is something I still haven't found an answer)

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Hello! I've been trying to be better about procrastination, because I realize how detrimental it can be, not only to myself, but also to other people in group project situations. Do you have any tips on pacing comfortably or figuring out how to have an equal amount of school work each night?

Hey there. Full disclosure before I go into procrastination: I don’t procrastinate, I’ve never struggled with it, and throughout my life I’ve done everything in my power to avoid procrastinating for reasons we’ll skip because they aren’t relevant to your ask. For that reason, I struggle to answer questions around this topic because I have limited personal perspective and my default response tends to be: “Don’t wait, suck it up, and get it done.” Plus, what works for my personality type may not work for yours.

The good news is that I have extremely brilliant and insanely accomplished colleagues and direct reports with your personality type who have found ways to manage procrastination. Here are some of the solutions we’ve come up with and they’ve used that’ve worked which may be helpful for you and others.

Managing procrastination for xNTPs (applicable to xSTPs)

1. Choose goals you’re excited about. This should be inherently obvious but it’s actually a common problem. Do you even want to achieve the thing you’re trying to achieve? If not, achieving it will be an uphill battle from start to finish. Here’s my framework to get you started.

2. Fail early and fail fast. High Ne users need to explore possibilities before they can make a decision so explore them early and move on. Do you want to study art or music? Take both classes, now. Remove the question mark.

3. Create an external support system. Go talk to other people about your goals: friends, colleagues, classmates, family members, mentors, and have them keep you on track. Even better, get a therapist if that’s an option. You mentioned depression and that you’re working on it which is great, keep your mental health up. Set up weekly, bi-weekly, monthly check-ins with them to measure progress. This helps with two things: 1) it pulls your goals out of your mind and into reality by speaking it into existence (as an intuitive, this is a constant struggle) and 2) it creates a system to keep you accountable to those goals especially if you’re not making progress. Ask for help if you need it.

4. Get a mentor. Find successful people who are where you want to be that you want to emulate. Talk to them, ask them questions, and keep them close. If you don’t know anyone like that, then research them online, watch videos, read books, and study their thought processes and habits. This helps because you’ll be able to see that someone has already walked the path you’re on and it’s completely achievable. You need to be able to see the result, not just imagine it in your head. The second benefit is that you’ll be able to check your internal logic against external facts. Are you doing what you’re supposed to be doing to succeed? Is your method actually feasible? If not, what facts from other successful people contradict your logic? Compare, analyze, adjust, and adapt.

5. Choose your friends wisely. Most people are influenced by their environment and their social groups, but xxTPs are especially vulnerable to social influence due to having extraverted feeling (Fe). If you’re trying to become a neurosurgeon but your friends are playing Fortnite 14 hours per day, then you’ll feel a strong pull to do the same thing they’re doing. For this reason, you don’t need to cut them off, but you’ll need to distance yourself from people who are interfering with your ability to do deep work. Set expectations with them: “I can game on weekends only for 2-3 hours” and enforce those boundaries. Then, add new friends to your social circle who have similar goals as you.

6. Work in groups. There’s a quote: “Many hands make for light work.” If you’re studying for an exam, then study with other people. Schedule a study group where everyone is expected to contribute notes to review and discuss. Global pandemic? Schedule a Zoom studying session. This accomplishes a few things: 1) it distributes the burden of crappy tasks and dense material among many people to become more manageable 2) it checks your logic and understanding of the material to ensure it’s accurate 3) it creates external accountability as covered in #1 and 4) it builds relationships with other people who may have similar goals as you and who may become part of your lifelong network. In general, xNTPs struggle with self-imposed deadlines and internal discipline but they tend to respond better when there’s a risk of letting other people down.

7. Break large goals into small chunks. Self-explanatory. Take a large goal like becoming a doctor which can take 10+ years (4 years of undergrad, 4 years of medical school, 2+ years of residency) and break it down into smaller goals like 1) master biology 101, master chemistry 101, etc. 2) get a research lab position studying something you find interesting 3) talk to some physicians in the specialty that you’re interested in 4) complete a few MCAT classes, etc. Small wins build confidence, increase momentum, and create gratification. 

8. Burn all bridges. xNTPs are masters of creative excuses and you must destroy all possible escape routes that can be used to get out of doing the tasks you must do. If you’re trying to get into better physical shape, then sign a non-refundable gym membership so that you’ll lose your money if you don’t go. If you’re trying to be more consistent with studying at the library, then volunteer to drive your study group so that you’ll let them down if you don’t drive. If you’re distracted by television, then sell your TV and cut your cable subscription. If you’re addicted to Tumblr, then delete your account. 

9. Summon the procrastination demon-- early. You know the demon I’m talking about, it’s the one that comes out right before a deadline that chases you to finish your work. Summon it yourself. Have you been wanting to write a book? Send out invitations to your friends and family to schedule a reading.

10. Show off. When you accomplish something, talk about it with other people. Share your knowledge, teach a class, write an online post, and distribute that wisdom to other people. It creates an added layer of gratification from your success.

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Miscellaneous 101 Yoditos AU Things

Din now owns an insane amount of Galaxy’s Best Dad mugs.  Anyone who knows him thinks it would be the perfect gift, and if one of the Babysitting Brigade takes the kids out Life Day or Father’s Day shopping, they really want their Dad to know he is the best, surely another mug saying so will confirm it.  Din uses them as soup bowls for the 101 as well as to drink the massive amount of caf he uses to survive raising 101 small children.

The 101 call Din a whole variety of things.  Dad, Papa, Buir, Daddy, etc.  Each has their own preference.  Din answers to any of these.  (As an experiment, Cara once addressed him as Dad for an hour and he didn’t notice, even when they weren’t talking about the kids.)

The kids quickly learn which caretaker is best for getting treats, pushing boundaries, etc.  Cara is the Fun Aunt who allows shenanigans.  Hera and Kuiil are the Do Not Cross Ever ones who are called in when they’re being naughty.

Leia is very busy with work and not a regular caretaker, but she used her Senator Voice on the 101 once when they refused to take a nap and was instantly upgraded to Do Not Engage Under Any Circumstances status.

Cara "I don’t do the baby thing” Dune is the one who lets the kids do wild shit and they know it.  She lets the kids yeet her and will yeet them in turn.  “Why are you upset, Din?  They always catch each other!”  She is also the #1 Sweets Sneaker.

Cara and Leia hang out and reminiscence about Alderaan, and end up teaching the 101 Alderaanian songs and fairy tales and games.  Both are really glad to pass on their culture and not let Alderaan be forgotten.  The kids love it, and Din also likes it because according to the massive amount of Child Development Space Googling he does every day, a multicultural education is good.

Din has a veritable library of articles, Holotube tutorials, and various child development related media bookmarked on his Space Internet Browser.  It is as neatly organized as his armory, sorted into categories labeled things like “Potty Training”, “Carnivore Biology”, and “Aurebesh Activities.”  Especially when he first picked up the kids, you could tell how his day was going just from his search history.  A lot of teacher/parenting blogs look forward to the weird anonymous questions he asks.  There are a lot of debates over how the hell you would childproof a ship against telekinetic toddlers.

Because of their Force sensitivity + being brothers who know each other well, emotions spread like wildfire through the 101.  One being scared by a spider means Din will be calming down not just him but another 30 who picked up on the fear.  But the opposite is true too - cheer up one, and the others will quickly follow.

This also means that if Din feels crappy or grumpy, he will be swarmed by Yoditos aiming to make him feel better.  It is very hard to maintain a bad mood when drowning in Yoditos, especially ones hell-bent on making you feel better.

In general if the 101 get a thought in their head, especially if it’s something they’re united on as a clan (i.e. seizing cookies) there is no dissuading them.  They are stubborn as hell.  Din can’t figure out why people keep telling him “Oh, they’re just like you.“

The kids think yeeting each other is hilarious.  Din thinks it will give him a heart attack.

There was an Emergency Clan Djarin Meeting to discuss personal boundaries and safety after Ezra persuaded the 101 to yeet Zeb as a prank and it ended up turning into a free-for-all yeet-for-all.

The most important thing in Din’s life is his sons.  The second most important thing in his life is sleep.

If he can’t get enough sleep he makes do.  He’s been informed in multiple Space Starbucks that the amount of caffeine in his preferred order is illegal in that system.

Din keeps a running tally of Things My Clan Will Eat.  Being carnivores he at least doesn’t have to worry about keeping fresh produce around, but he’s always searching for suitable and frugal food sources since feeding 101 children, even very small children, takes a fortune.  (He drew the line at the time 15 of them got into a bag of loth-cat food and ate it all and liked it, though.  He is not feeding his children pet food.)

Whatever the Star Wars equivalent of Frozen is, the kids have seen it five billion times and have all the songs memorized.  Because of this Din also has all the songs memorized, very unwillingly.  He would give a camtono of beskar to never have to hear one of those goddamn songs again, but he would sooner take off his helmet than let the kids know how he really feels, and enthusiastically praises all their performances.  (Plus, putting on Space Frozen lets him take a shower and eat in peace and get some Introvert Recharge Time.)

It turns out that carbonized bounties are the perfect things to teach parts of the body with, and if you lay them flat they make great activity tables.

Once the kids accidentally hit the de-carbonite button.  Luckily the poor bounty was so taken aback at being used as a road for dozens of toy speeders Din could just quickly recarbonize him.

In addition to learning Basic, the Yoditos have their own language of chirrs and coos they can communicate with.  Din isn’t sure if it’s a native language or instinctual sounds or just a side effect of being lab rats and not getting a formal education, but a gathering of Yoditos purring and chirping at each other is not an unusual sight.

There’s a purr-rumble-like sound in particular that’s used to comfort.  (Think the sound Baby Yoda makes at the end of Sanctuary, when WInta is hugging him.)  Din has woken up from a flashback/nightmare involving the loss of his parents to several Yoditos curled on his chest and under his arms and draped over his legs, purring furiously.

OG Yodito has been around long enough that he's picked up on Din’s dislike of droids.  If a droid approaches his Dad, he will stand by him or whine until he’s held, and simply stay with Din until the perceived threat is gone.

If anyone potential hostile approaches Din, even if they don’t outwardly react, they are all bristling with “If you even look at Din Djarin I will stomp you to death with my hooves” energy.

Din also suspects they “communicate” through the Force to some degree.  In particular, the older ones will sometimes come tell him things on behalf younger ones who can’t talk, such as telling him they’re hungry or hurt, and they’re always right.  Despite the Cain instinct/sibling culture the older Yoditos are frequently embroiled in, the older ones are very protective of the little ones.

The ten youngest Yoditos, who are basically babies, are so small they can fit in one of Din’s hands.

Any doctor visit is absolute hell, due to the whole Raised In A Lab thing.  It’s like taking a loth-cat to the vet times ten.  Din won’t take them except as a last resort, and always allots time after for extra cuddles and treats to help soothe them and tell them how brave they were.

One of the best rewards in the 101′s opinion are Jetpack Rides.  Jetpack fuel ain’t cheap or easy to get a hold of on a regular basis, so Din only saves it for special occasions, but they love flying.  Refusing “Again, Dad, again!  Pleeeeeeeeeeeease?” + puppy eyes is really hard.

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2 Reasons to Use Essential Oils for House Cleaning

May 6, 2019 by Savannah

Using essential oils for house cleaning is a wonderful alternative to commercial products. Many essential oils have properties that are perfect for disinfecting surfaces, dissolving stains and cutting through grease and grime. This makes them just as good as (and often times better than) any chemical laden product you could buy at the store.

Commercial products come with a hefty price tag and I don’t only mean more money (because they are in fact more pricey than using essential oils for house cleaning). If you’re here, you may already know what these other non monetary price tags are but if you don’t, allow me to be the one to tell you that a lot of chemicals used in cleaning products are not at all good for you and your family. They carry toxins that contribute to all sorts of health concerns in life and I don’t only mean cancer.

These toxins soak into your skin while you’re using the products if you’re not careful (No one ALWAYS wears gloves when cleaning) and can catch you later too as they lie in wait on your surfaces for you to touch them.

With all of their plastic waste, they also clog up landfills and make their way into our water ways, bringing all of their toxins with them. They carry price tags that don’t only effect the health of individuals but the health of all life on the planet and the Earth herself.

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Essential Oils for House Cleaning is Nontoxic

I hear people tell me all of the time, “If it were that bad for us, the government wouldn’t allow it on the shelves.” Unfortunately, that’s not at all the case. You see, we have the FDA to regulate our food (although, in my opinion, they do a really crappy job at it but that’s a whole different blog post). There isn’t anyone regulating what chemicals are allowed and what is safe to be used in our products.

The only thing regulating chemicals is a weak law written in 1976 called the TSCA or Toxic Substance Control Act. It lists 62,000 chemicals that were “presumed safe” to use but were never thoroughly tested on their effects on people. It has never been updated and even stood in the way of Obama banning asbestos during his presidency.

The rate of cancer these days is 1 in every 3 people. ONE IN EVERY THREE. That’s staggering. I also have people argue with me that “That’s always been the rate of cancer. We just didn’t have the technology to diagnose it until recent years.” To that, I disagree heavily. Nature doesn’t evolve to be flawed like that. It discards that which doesn’t benefit the organism and passes on the beneficial traits. Sure there are flukes but never on a grand scale such as this. It’s simple biology.

In a world that is growing increasingly toxic, we should all be taking responsibility for our own health and wellness and stacking the cards in our favor. I also have people argue with me that “Everything causes cancer” in an excuse for them to write it off and not worry about it anymore.

It’s true that leading a nontoxic life is one of difficulties these days. The vast majority of food and products at our disposal ARE toxic and that sucks. If we hope to ever change that, though, we HAVE to take responsibility for our own lives, the lives of those we love and make some changes. It doesn’t have to be hard or overwhelming, though. It just takes one little change at a time and you have everything at stake to do so.

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Using Essential Oils for House Cleaning is Eco Friendly

Using essential oils to clean your home is a more sustainable alternative to using commercial products. The cleaning supplies you buy at the store (mostly) all have one major common factor. They’re all wrapped in plastic. This plastic takes 1000 years to decompose. ONE THOUSAND YEARS. Leaving it to clog landfills and find it’s way into our waterways.

1500 plastic bottles are thrown away every second in the U.S. alone. 380 billion plastic bags and wrappers a year. Where do you think we will put it all once the landfills are full? These numbers are staggering. Look at them again and really let them sink in.

Our ways as a society are unsustainable and will lead to our own demise if we don’t take responsibility for the damage we’ve done by making conscious changes. There are whole lifestyle waves dedicated to making things better for us all such as zero waste and minimalism. These are designed to help us make a more positive impact on our lives and the worlds we live in. They also improve our standards of living on an individual scale by default.

Everything you own can't be organic. Everything you own can't be ethically sourced. Everything can't be zero waste. Everything can't be completely eco friendly, conscious and plastic free.

Do your best and keep growing, keep improving. Its ok that we're not perfect. We're trying.

Even making one switch can make a difference. That one switch takes X amount of plastic out of the cycle. Make another and another and it stems out, growing and influencing those around you. Touching the companies that produce these things and telling them what they should be improving. It creates a sustainable wave that makes a difference. A single person can cause 1000s of plastic products to either add to the mountains of trash or become nonexistent. The choice is yours.

Switching to essential oils to clean your home with is just one of the tons of things you can do to make a positive impact on your world. It’s a simple category that will make you feel better about your impact on life as we know it and give you a sense of peace in your home.

Peace of Mind

Especially as a parent of children who like to lick things, using essential oils to clean my home makes me feel a lot safer. I also have eczema and crazy sensitive skin. I’m talking seasonal allergies cause me to break out in itchy bumps. Anything non natural I touch gives me immediate adverse side effects. Essential oils gives me one less thing to worry about on a daily basis.

It also helps me to feel better about the state of the world. Whereas there’s not a ton I can do about law making or anything, I can actively vote on my preferences through the purchases I make. I can also raise my children to know how to be resourceful and mindful of their impact via the small choices they make on a daily basis and I can share it all with you along the way. These things make a difference and are in my power.

If you want to get started on making nontoxic cleaning choices, I have a directory full of essential oil cleaning recipes for you! They’re all super simple and the same 3-4 oils can be used to clean mostly anything you like so you don’t have to worry about buying a ton of different things.

Click here for the house cleaning recipes.

It’s called Essential Elements and you can learn more about it here in this video I made. Keep in mind I’m a better writer than I am speaker, haha. If you want to learn more about essential oils, sign up below to Potions Class, a free 7 day mini course and if you’re interested in detoxing more in your life click here to sign up to Mindful Minimalist, my mini course on detoxing your life.

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